High Net Worth Couples: Don’t Allow Money to Come Between You and Lasting Happiness
Avoid a lengthy, messy, expensive breakup. Skip the needless arguments and resentment. Don’t give up — get help.
Without good communication and a solid strategy, money can create misunderstandings and unnecessary problems.
When you or your partner are a high net worth individual, you’re at extreme risk for the chaos that having resources and wealth can bring to your relationship. It’s problematic if one of you has significantly more wealth than the other, and it’s even more of a problem when both of you have high incomes.
Having more money and assets usually means you have much more to lose in a relationship. Breaking up or staying in an unhappy relationship is already painful. Add in a loss of assets you’ve worked incredibly hard to achieve or have inherited, and it sucks even more.
But your relationship doesn’t have to end like that. Or at all.
Does any of this sound familiar?
- Most of your conflicts stem from your different spending styles, your core values and beliefs about money, or your difference in income.
- You’re insecure about your partner making more than you, and you feel like you don’t add value or like you don’t have enough say in the relationship because most of what you share is theirs.
- You’re overwhelmed because you’re the main provider and feel your assets are at risk if this relationship doesn’t work out.
- You feel like you don’t have a voice in any financial or household decisions because most of your shared assets come from your partner.
- You want to get married, move in together, and have children. But you feel threatened by the idea of a prenup.
- You’re concerned about how a change in income would affect the dynamic of your relationship.
- You’ve been through a nasty divorce or separation, and your assets took a hit. Your emotional state and overall happiness went through hell and back at the same time.
- You want to move forward in a way that benefits both you and your partner – without sacrificing your beliefs, values, way of life, and especially your resources.
The great news is – you can figure this out!
Imagine letting go of all the worries and fears you’ve been carrying around and being able to talk to your partner freely and effectively without fear of one of you shutting down and feeling misunderstood.
You’d feel secure about everything you’ve worked for and how your partner fits into your life.
And can you picture your relationship with healthy boundaries set with consideration for each other’s feelings and opinions?
This isn’t some made-up fantasy world.
Many of my clients are able to approach and resolve issues in their relationships after going through my high net worth couples coaching.
Join my high net worth couples program here.
“Dr. Young is truly gifted. If you walk into his office with an open mind and willingness to put in the work it takes, you can change your whole life. I seriously don’t think we’d be here without the help and guidance of Dr. Young. He’s equipped with wisdom, honesty, integrity, and all the tools you need to evolve – it’s up to you to make it happen.”
I’m not some underqualified coach who will feed you generic, cookie-cutter advice. There are no pre-determined outcomes when you work with me. As a Master Certified Coach and behavioral and relationship expert who’s been in practice for over a decade and a half, I’ve seen it all. My approach is neither accusatory nor one-sided. It’s based on meeting and addressing the needs of both parties.
No matter what happens, you can move forward with clarity, and without fear or regret.
I don’t “take sides”. Despite being well-established and successful individuals, I recognize that you and your partner likely have your own limiting beliefs and baggage that need to be worked through, which isn’t necessarily a bad thing.
Your differences offer an opportunity for individual and collective growth.
The key to success in love and relationships is getting to know your true self while mastering self-acceptance and self-awareness. Only then are you prepared to take on new experiences as an individual and partner.
This ensures a functional level of self-awareness, self-actualization, and emotional intelligence which can serve you and your relationship as you evolve and grow.
How do you know I’m the right fit for you?
My diverse professional and personal experiences as a high net worth individual contribute to my effective and empathetic coaching style. I understand every couple has their own unique experiences and challenges. And you and your partner are unique individuals.
I empower you and your partner to move in whatever direction is best for the short-term and long-term happiness of both your relationship and your family.
So even if you:
- Aren’t having financial disagreements in your current relationship yet, but you’ve had bad experiences before…
- Feel insecure about the complicated dynamic of your relationship stemming from finances…
- Feel like you’re ready to give up, but you don’t want to throw your relationship away…
- Think your financial differences are too great to overcome…
My coaching program is the right choice for you and your partner. If you want to be able to identify your own blind spots, understand your partner better, learn to work through general relationship issues and money-related conflicts, and feel confident in your choices – you’ve come to the right place.
As long as you’re willing to hold yourself accountable, be honest with your partner, and try my evidence-backed methods for better communication, you’ll be able to make the right decisions for you and your relationship.
And the best part?
The tools and skills you gain from our coaching sessions will serve you in your relationships with others, having a positive effect on your overall happiness.
What do you get?
This introductory package is $2,750. But let’s get real — this is a lot cheaper than a divorce and worth avoiding the emotional repercussions of a separation from the person with whom you want to build your life. And if you’ve already built your life together – you don’t want to give all that up over something that can be resolved.
And you don’t have to.
For only $2,750 you and your partner will get:
- Research-backed assessments designed to give me a clearer idea of your relationship and the two of you as individuals.
- In-depth analysis coupled with unbiased and actionable advice based on your assessment results and consultations from an ICF Master Certified Coach.
- An initial one-hour 1:1 with each of you, allowing me to get to know you in a zero-pressure environment.
- A two-hour meeting with you and your partner where we’ll do a deep dive into your relationship and identify the source of your greatest challenges.
And those are only the tangible benefits. You’ll also come out of these three sessions with:
- A better understanding of yourself and your partner as individuals, as well as a bird’s-eye view of your relationship.
- The confidence and clarity to make difficult decisions that are in the best interests of you and your partner.
- Techniques for improving your communication with your partner to avoid explosive arguments or heated conversations that leave you feeling misheard.
- A solid strategy for boundary-setting that doesn’t alienate your partner or prevent communication.
You care about your partner more than anything else, but that doesn’t mean you should sacrifice your financial security and hard-earned success.
Why are finances still an issue for high net worth couples?
Even the most successful and wealthy people have issues communicating and setting boundaries.
And it makes sense.
If one or both of you makes a lot of money, the talk about finances can be daunting. And if you have a difference in income, you are each coming from different places. You both have different experiences with wealth, and you probably have different habits.
If you both have substantial resources, don’t make the mistake of avoiding this talk. There are still challenges that can come up when you have different views on shared assets, spending, and household roles.
Let’s break down common situations for high net worth couples.
You’re the higher earner in the relationship →
- You feel like you should have more of a say in purchases and general household decisions.
- You feel responsible for taking on your partner’s debt and expenses.
- If one of you had to stop working due to unforeseen life events, you worry about draining your savings.
- Your partner has different spending habits and you don’t trust them with your money. But then you feel guilty for keeping track of your finances and separating everything.
- You feel taken advantage of or think your partner takes you and your wealth for granted.
You don’t make as much as your partner →
- It feels like you have no independence.
- You worry you’re not contributing enough. And how that feeling would intensify if you take time off to start a family or change careers.
- You feel threatened by or dependent on your partner.
- You can’t shake the guilty feeling that you’re mooching off your partner and their resources.
- Your partner wants to sign a prenup, but this makes you feel like they don’t trust you. It feels like you’re not true partners.
And certain experiences can exacerbate these situations, such as:
- You’ve gone through a messy separation already, so there’s unresolved anxiety or mistrust that has nothing to do with your current partner. But it still affects your relationship.
- You’ve been taken advantage of before by other people in your life.
- You’re going through a life change or a new stage of your relationship, so you feel unprepared and unsure.
These fears and feelings are just the beginning. That’s not meant to scare you, but it should motivate you to take action before these fears spill over.
If you’re in one of these situations or you’re worried you might be headed in this direction, sign up for my HNW couples counseling program.
“Dr. Young provided unparalleled support during the most critical time of my life. Dr. Young understood the problems we were facing as a couple and took steps to transform not only our relationship with each other but also with ourselves.”
Work with someone who knows what they’re talking about
Working with a Master Certified Coach can prevent the buildup of fear, resentment, and guilt on both sides. These emotions can lead to constant fighting, financial infidelity, secrets, and, ultimately, separation or divorce.
Click here for my HNW couples package.
You don’t have to worry about being judged or dismissed in our sessions. I recognize you and your partner are entering coaching as two unique individuals. And your relationship cannot be compared to any other. We’ll work together and consider how you and your partner can move forward in a way that’s healthy and beneficial for everyone.
So if you’re worried about working with a therapist who tries to convince you to stay together or separate – that’s not what I’m here for.
Only you and your partner can make that decision. I help you uncover your blind spots hiding your own strengths and weaknesses as well as the way you and your partner show up in your relationship.
And then you make the decision that’s best for you and your situation.
“I strongly recommend Dr. Young to any man that is determined to leave a strong legacy for his family, even if it is a blended family.”
It sounds simple, but when you’re intertwined and so close to the situation, it’s challenging.
As a Master Certified Coach, I’m here to help you get to the root cause of your conflicts and learn how to better communicate as partners. We’ll unearth your confidence in making the right decisions to improve your relationship with yourself and your partner without compromising everything you’ve worked so hard for.
But don’t only take my word for it. A few of my previous clients have shared how my program changed their relationships for the better – no matter what that looked like for them.
Dr. Young provided unparalleled support during the most critical time of my life. Dr. Young understood the problems we were facing as a couple and took steps to transform not only our relationship with each other but also with ourselves. He educated us, so we do the best for our kids. His deep knowledge, experience, and guidance helped us navigate the most difficult time of our life. He motivates you to be the best version of yourself by providing essential tools to live with intent and be at a peaceful place in life. He wants to do the best for you and your family. I don’t have words to express my gratitude. Thank you, Dr. Young.
Priyanka B.
Dr. Young is the truth and speaks the truth with wisdom and a firm love! He has given me the tools to grow and become the man, husband, father, stepfather, and ex-husband that builds healthy boundaries and family structure. Dr. Young has helped open my eyes, mind, and spirit to a much better way of handling my family that makes them feel and know they are a valuable stakeholder in each of their own lives as well as the family unit.
Thomas B.
Dr. Young is truly gifted. If you walk into his office with an open mind and willingness to put in the work it takes, you can change your whole life. My relationship was on the verge of falling apart; fast forward to some months of counseling with Dr. Young and we are now engaged, with a whole new perspective and appreciation for ourselves and our relationship. I seriously don’t think we’d be here without the help and guidance of Dr. Young. He’s equipped with wisdom, honesty, integrity, and all the tools you need to evolve – it’s up to you to make it happen. Your life can go from darkness to beautiful light if you allow yourself to be helped and transformed. The work he does can truly change lives and we appreciate him so, so much for it.
Lilly S.
Coaching can help your relationship thrive
At this point, you’re wondering if this program is for you. If you’re a high net worth individual in a serious relationship, engaged, or married – you’re in the right place.
Don’t join my program if you’re:
- Not ready to be honest with your partner about how you feel and what you think.
- Unwilling to keep an open mind about your partner’s point of view.
- Not open to working through your own issues and your relationship with yourself.
- Simply going through the motions to please your partner with no intention of working on yourself and your relationship.
If you and your partner have open minds, a willingness to learn about yourselves and each other, and the desire to implement changes that will benefit your relationship, coaching can have a positive impact on your happiness and success.
It’s tempting to consider coaching after you’ve started to have problems in your relationship. But it doesn’t matter if you’ve had problems yet; your wealth and success are a magnet for conflict, and you can do something about it.
You can’t buy your way out of relationship issues and internal limitations.
But you can sign up for my HNW couples counseling to gain clarity around your individual goals, as well as your shared goals. After you and your partner go through these coaching sessions, you’ll be equipped with the tools to communicate in a respectful way so that both of you feel heard.
And you’ll be able to make mutually beneficial decisions as a team – even if that means going your separate ways.
Let’s get started so you can be as successful in your relationships as you have been in your other endeavors.
Package price: $2,750
It’s time to take control of your happiness.
Questions? Let’s see if we can answer them.
What does the process look like?
When you sign up for my high net worth couples program, you and your partner will start with assessments that will help set the tone of our coaching.
Then I’ll set up individual meetings with you both.
The last step of this package includes a meeting with all three of us. During this meeting, we’ll go over your assessment results and discuss your main concerns.
At this point, you and your partner can decide if we’re a good fit and if you’d like to continue working with me. And if we’re not, you’ll have a solid starting point for identifying problem areas that need immediate attention.
Do you offer full refunds?
I don’t offer refunds, but you can stop your program at any time without incurring early termination fees and penalties. My approach is unbiased and professional. I can guarantee you won’t walk away from my coaching without learning something valuable about yourself as both an individual and a partner.
I treat every client with empathy, but also provide a view of what’s actionable and realistic. This fosters an environment that helps them gain clarity and move forward in the best way possible for themselves and their partner.
What is the chance of success for me and my partner?
There’s no guarantee that you and your partner will stay together. I’m focused on helping you and your partner identify your issues and the underlying reasons for those issues, while giving you the tools you need to move forward and communicate in a respectful way.
Your chances of making a healthy decision will be significantly higher if you come to coaching sessions with an open heart and mind.
You and your partner ultimately have to make the best decision for your relationship. My coaching helps you build up your confidence and empathy to do that successfully.
How is your coaching different from any other therapist?
My experience as a relationship coach and health professional is extensive. But in addition to my professional experience and education, I understand every high net worth couple’s unique challenges.
I’ve worked with countless couples and individuals who’ve had similar experiences to you, but I never try to force an approach used for one couple on another. There’s no one-size-fits-all in my coaching.
One couple, married for 38 years, had been to seven different counselors before coming to me. They were facing divorce.
After working with me, they were able to overcome their challenges.
This is no coincidence. I get to know each of you and your relationship before I recommend any methods or potential solutions.
Don’t leave the fate of your relationship up to chance.
You chose this person for a reason.
You might feel like your relationship is beyond saving, but it is possible to avoid a needless separation by being willing to work through your issues with yourself and your partner.
If you do choose to separate, my coaching will help you work together and make logical decisions that aren’t from a place of spite or resentment.
When you work with me, you won’t get any cookie-cutter advice or unsubstantiated suggestions. You’ll emerge from my couples counseling program with a newfound appreciation for yourself and your relationship.
Take charge of your happiness
Do what’s right for you and your relationship.